Don't you love it when people say, "Don't take this personal, but..." Of course you don't. It's one of those phrases we all worry about hearing for we know it really means our feelings might be hurt. The truth is, you should. In fact, you better take it personal. When someone is saying something to you, it is addressed to YOU. Not anyone else, just you.
People say this all the time, but it is just not right. Anything you say to someone is personal, it is addressed to them. Whether or not it is offensive, everything should be taken personally to some extent. Unfortunately, there is some truth behind the statement, "there is a little truth behind every just kidding." Best friends joke with each other. It's what they do. But when someone less friendly than the best says anything, that is a little different.
There is bullying out there and too many self-conscious, emotional people to take a chance of hurting someone. You may think it's a joke, but think about who you're joking with before you make it. Similarly, when talking to someone as a one-on-one state, make your true intentions and feelings known. The slightest misconception can cause a war.
This shouldn't be all negative, however. People should take things personal when being spoken to. If they do not, they may not care at all about whatever might be said to them. When a director speaks to their cast, every member should have their focus on what the director is saying. Even if something is not being directed directly to you, it still applies to you. Always listen to what is being said.
Note* You does not necessarily mean you in any examples.
It's kinda confusing when people say, "don't take this personal..." If you're making that effort to tell them that, then don't you WANT them to listen and consider what you're saying?
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